THE UPBRINGING OF OUR KIDS

Many time we have seen juvenile cases reported on newspaper

or someone near us would have complaint of their teenage kids

gone out of hands.

End up in police station for fights or so..

What really happen?

When the kids got into trouble, the parents will blame the school

the teachers or even the tutors.

For not teaching the kids manners or not keeping an eye on them.

Hello, how come parents did not ask themselves.

what happen to my children?

Are we responsible for such behaviour?

The school, teachers and tutor are not responsible for keeping

your kids out of trouble.

You are their parents, and they are your reponsiblities.

Why did i mentioned this topic today?

Saw something that make me rant about it.

Just the other day, as i was waiting for cab

I saw these group of six uncle and aunties crowding at the void deck.

Among them was a kid... hmm about 4-5 years.

That kid was very naughty.

He was playing with one of the uncle in a very rude manner.

screaming and shoving. But it seems so the adult is playing with

him in such manner.

At this point, I'll just watch.. i dont feel anything

Next, the kid push over a bicylcle

the toppled bicycle almost hit one of the uncle.

Everyone in the right mind would have scolded and disciplined him right?

They did not, instead they start applauding

cheering the boy on.

My eye open wide and my jaws drop..

WTF, they are encouraging the boy..

hence when the uncle actually picked the bike up.. the boy ran and toppled it again

This time it hit the uncle on the foot.

Again the rest started clapping and cheering the boy on.

The uncle was so mad, he try to grab the boy and smack him

before he did, the boy grab his arm and gave him a hard bite.

The uncle was yelling in pain and someone got to pulled the boy away.

The few aunties starting clapping and cheering and even giving the boy

the Thumb UP, telling him GOOD.

U can see the cheeky look on the boy face.

He was proud with what he have done and he is only 4 years old.

In another case which i have encountered.

Im used to tutor this 6 year old boy.

the whole day he would be at home with the maid Marie.

Parents would be working long hours

The boy would yell for Marie for any slightest thing.... water, pen, eraser.

even when the eraser is just few steps away from him.

after that, he would not say "Thank you"

I ask him why?

Why didnt you call her Auntie Marie, hw can you just yell for her name?

Why didnt you say 'thank you' each time Auntie Marie help you?

Why must you yelled everytime you need something, do you like me yelling at you??

Why can you just walk over and get your own eraser??

Should you say "Please" each time you need someone to help you?

He look at me wide eye and shrug his shoulder.

Must say thank you? Must call as Auntie Marie?

Must say 'please'??

His parents didnt tell him that......or correct him.

He told me, mommy and daddy did the same mah.

Marie told me, that is how thing are at home.

3 of them will take turn to yell for her..

no such things as 'PLEASE' and 'THANK YOU'

just because she is the MAID.

Is this how we s'poreans are teaching our kids now?

We, Sporean are so fucking proud of ourself especially when we are overseas.

We are so proud till we no longer know what is mutual respect and basic manners

But may I asked.. what are we proud of?

Our rude manners? Our cockiness? Our unruly behehaviour?

If 10, 15 years down the road.

Your so called precious children yelled at you, or even slap you back

Will you still cheer him on and give him the thumb Up?